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Being-restored
DAY 641 YOU SHOULD...
Often the point of reference just isn't there peeps and we have to remember that when suggesting to others that "You should..." do this or that.  Its not that its meant in a bad way, the suggestions are valid and very often heartfelt and sincere.  It isn't meant to make someone feel hopeless or embarrassed, but sometimes it can anyway. Case in point, my struggle with Maintenance has been a very long and frustrating one.  I've been in a holding pattern at 182 for several months now and joined a serious fitness forum with mentors that truly intend and want to help all of us who participate.  I've diligently done the suggestions the mentors on the forum feel will help me succeed, as well all the suggestions of the NS Counselors... all to no avail. *big huge sigh*  Most of the suggestions were things I could incorporate into my exercise regimen and budget so it hasn't been impossible for me to follow.  But then it was suggested recently that because nothing is happening "You should hire a Personal Trainer for a month because they would be able to follow your habits and make suggestions that were based on personal observations you might not even be aware are hindering you."  Sounds valid, sincere and heartfelt and I am absolutely certain it was my Friends.  Problem... no point of reference that not everyone can afford that option... me being one of them. *even bigger sigh*  I would LOVE to be able to hire a Personal Trainer, its right up there on my list of desires right next to the trip to Tahiti peeps! *wink*  But with a Family of five on a VA Disability income we're struggling at times to make the basic ends meet.  So hiring a Personal Trainer, not gonna happen... and having to explain that in a way that doesn't discount the suggestion or make it sound like an offense, well, that can be tricky peeps.  I wasn't offended so that wasn't the issue, but it is a lesson in humility to have a suggestion given that you couldn't possibly afford, when the person suggesting probably hasn't a clue that not everyone can take that route...  So, just be mindful when trying to help, that you realize not everyone is in the same situation... and for some, certain options just aren't an option.  
Published Tuesday, November 03, 2009 08:56 AM by Being-restored
Letsmove said:
Hey Dawn. It's good to see you on the blog. I wish I could give you some words but I have been bad. I have not maintained. In fact I went up 10 lbs and down those 10 lbs over and over the last five or six months. Yep, still up. I have gone back to eating enough for two-three and to the foods I love one too many times. good for you for not giving in and holding on. The only thing I can tell you is to keep drinking your water, stay away from the soda and keep the coffee down to one or two cups a day. Then as you know be sure to eat fiber, yes your veggies everyday. As you already know keep your portions in check. Protein is needed, as is dairy. Stay away from the sugar sweets, as eating some will cause you to eat more. Get your walking shoes on and remember to play with those kids. Love Marie
November 03, 2009 12:03 PM EST
Gishou said:
Good blog, Dawn. Very correct analysis of 'advice' offered with the best of intentions but not always practical.

My advice? Hang in there! :) You know what to do, it just needs to break the log jam--prunes? HAHA

Take care.
November 03, 2009 12:20 PM EST
mkhagen13 said:
Great point.
I have found that sometimes suggestions may almost be self refections of how a person is feeling in their own life. (just my opinion)

I have found that when I read some blogs that I am reading about my life and some of my suggestions are more for me than the other person. But that is just me.

by the way -- if you find an inexpensive personal trainer --- I would love one too.. Or maybe find a workout partner -- :)
thanks for sharing.
November 03, 2009 01:11 PM EST
cstt07 said:
Good blog Dawn. Like I have been told many-a- time....keep what works for you and throw the rest out.

Cyndie
November 03, 2009 01:21 PM EST
tobewankanobe said:
One person's "Should" is another person's "Are you freaking kidding me"....but I honestly think most times these "shoulds" are given with the best of intentions.

I'm one who just couldn't have a personal trainer. I mean, someone telling me what to do, in a forceful way???....I think not. Michelle's idea about a work-out partner sounds like fun, though.

I'll just struggle along being my own trainer and kicking my own butt when it starts to slide down the back of my thighs again.
November 03, 2009 03:53 PM EST
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